How To Give Yourself A Hickey

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People have different opinions about having a hickey. Some flaunt it and show it to the world while others try to hide from as much as they can that they even cover it up with makeup. 

If you want to show off your hickey but you don’t have one, you could ask your partner to give you one! However, if you don’t have a partner to do that, you might want to learn how to give yourself a hickey.

There are a few ways you can make a hickey, which we will discuss below. But before we do that, let’s first discuss what a hickey is and what causes it to appear.


What Is A Hickey?

A hickey or a “love bite” is a mark on your skin that could be purplish or reddish in color. This is similar to a bruise that will eventually fade in time. 

Hickeys are usually found in the neck area because it is one of the most accessible areas to get them, and one of the common results of “necking”. But you could actually get hickeys anywhere in your body.

A hickey is a result of blood vessel damage. Due to the suction placed on the said area, the tiny blood vessels break and that causes the blood to be released onto the muscles. 

A hickey is a result of blood vessel damage. 

There are only tiny blood vessels that break that is why you also see tiny red spots in the area, which is also known as petechiae. The tiny blood spots could form into a larger one that is known as the hickey. 

Hickeys can also be considered a bruise. That also means that you can treat it as a bruise if you want to heal it faster. 

You’d also observe that hickeys will change color just like other bruises as it heals. It could start from a reddish or purple color and turn to a yellow mark when it is already about to completely heal. 

How To Give Yourself A Hickey

Now that we’ve defined what a hickey is, we’ll continue to the exciting part and that is to know how to give yourself a hickey. Here are a few ways how to do that. 

1. Cupping Method

Are you aware of the alternative medicine that uses cups to create suction in various parts of the body? Those cups are also available in different sizes so you can choose the smallest and use that on the area where you want to put your hickey. 

The cups for the cupping method could create the bruising effect similar to that of a hickey. This is because it also sucks the area and damages the blood vessels there. Just make sure you don’t overdo it or the hickey could look quite dark. 

Also, make sure that you don’t create a perfect circle. Most hickeys are not perfect circles in shape. Most often they are elongated or irregular in shape. 

2. Use A Vacuum Cleaner

A vacuum cleaner has various attachments. When trying to create a hickey out of them, choose the smallest attachment and use it several times in an area. 

This creates the elongated shape of the hickey that you’d typically observe. Just make sure that you do it gently and carefully to make it look realistic. 

3. Use a Blackhead Vacuum

Blackhead vacs are great when you want to suck blackheads out of your skin. The little pore vacuums will pull those blackheads out, but sometimes they will go a bit haywire and get caught on your skin. The result is a pore vacuum hickey!

So if you want to get rid of blackheads and give yourself a hickey at the same time, just pick up a blackhead vac!

4. Fake It With Makeup

Another way to give yourself a hickey is to simply create an illusion of a hickey and not necessarily give yourself one. You can use makeup to do this, but make sure you choose the right colors to make it look realistic. 

Eyeshadows would be a good choice but select those colors that are matte and don’t have any sort of shimmer or glitter on them. Select or combine the colors blue, purple, or dark red as needed. 

5. Pinch Yourself

As we’ve discussed, a hickey is basically a bruise due to the damaged blood vessels. You can also do that by pinching hard on yourself. 

Pinching hard on yourself could damage your blood vessels enough to give you a hickey. This may need trial and error. And be prepared to be in pain!

When doing this, you have to hold the pinch HARD for a few seconds. About 10 seconds would be enough to give you that bruised look. 

Do check on the mirror to see if it is already visible. If not, you might need to do it once again on the same area to make the bruise more visible. 

6. Suck On Your Skin

If the area where you want to place your hickey is easily accessible to your own mouth, then you can simply give yourself one. This will also serve as great practice before you give someone else a hickey. 

The easiest area to place a hickey on your own is your arms. However, it is still possible to add one to areas like your thigh, depending on your flexibility. You could be in an awkward position, but it is still doable. 

How To Get Rid Of A Hickey

If there are people who want to show off their hickey, there are more people looking to get rid of it! If you’ve given yourself a hickey, its purpose is already complete, and you already want to get rid of it, there are things you can do. 

First of all, if you have just given yourself a hickey and changed your mind, you can get rid of it faster by helping the bruise to heal quicker. That can be done by applying a cold compress to the area. 

The hickey is a bruise that gets its color due to the blood in the muscles. The blood isn’t supposed to be in the muscle so your body gets rid of it. That process is visible with the changing colors of your bruise. 

As you wait for your hickey to heal on its own, the only way you can make your love bite less obvious is to use makeup or concealer to cover it up in the meantime. 

Written by Kayla Young

Kayla is the founder of LuxeLuminous. She has worked professionally in the tanning industry for years. She has been interested in esthetics since childhood, and has tried every hair, skin, and makeup product ever produced (more or less).